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Have you been cheated on? Did you ever forgive him/her?

I didn’t “cheat” because we were never officially boyfriend and girlfriend (because he didn’t want to be, but I did). I was “dating ” him and I did date other men. One time I was involved sexually with another man…no intercourse. He is devistated by this…After I was involved with the other man I broke it off with him (the current one), but he didn’t want to let me go and now we are FINALLY bf/gf. BUT, he can’t forget and move foward from my relationship with the other man. What can I do??? His sadness is killing me, I want us to be happy and move foward to build a stong relationship.

I have been with my current boyfriend for seven and a half years, for the first three of those we had an on off relationship because he didn’t want to get serious with me/admit he cared for me, in part becasue I was a lot younger. I had been seeing him a year when he left me for another woman, he still saw me on the side, but she took priority. I took the view that he would get over it in the end, and I waited. When he came back to me I was so angry with him, I couldn’t forgive him, the hurt was eating me up inside. I left him for another man, for several months. When that ended, he asked me to go back to him, this time as boyfriend/girlfriend. I have left him once since, for a brief fling that only lasted a few weeks. It took me years to get over what he did to me and it has been hard for him to get over my past, but we do love each other. He says he is old enough to have learnt that if you see a thread loose, you don’t pull on it or the whole thing unravels. I forgave him because he hadn’t made a commitment to me, so although it hurt I still believe I don’t have the right to blame him for what he did. At that point we hadn’t promised each other anything.

No, you didn’t cheat, he needs to get over it and understand that you care for him and that the other man in the past should have no bearing on your current relationship. You can work through these things but it takes time. The further into the relationship you get and the more sense of security you have with each other the more that helps too. Try to make him understand how important he is to you and that it is him you want. You can move forward, but he has to be prepared to let go of the past.

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